September Reads | The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck

30 Sept 2017

The Life Changing Magic of Not Giving a Fuck by Sarah Knight

Disclaimer: I say the word ‘fuck’ a lot in this post. 

I’m not really a self-help book person. Sure, I’ve barely read any but the ones I have, I found irritating and, ironically, extremely unhelpful so that explains why.

This isn’t a traditional self-help book (as the title suggests) but I still don’t know if I would have deliberately sought it out.

But after a week of feeling particularly frazzled, I found myself in Waterstones (sometimes I go there to feel calmer; books have that effect on me) and this book caught my eye, and the title and tagline immediately made me laugh.

The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a Fuck.

How to stop spending time you don’t have doing things you don’t want to do with people you don’t like.

It’s a book that teaches you how to stop giving a fuck about things that aren’t important without being a twat. 

Direct quote:

‘…people who don’t give a fuck fall into one of three categories: children, assholes, the enlightened.’

Sarah’s Not Sorry Method encourages you to stop giving so many fucks to obligation, guilt and shame and start giving those fucks to things that actually make you happy instead.

She explains that your fucks are divided into 4 categories: things, work, friends, acquaintances & strangers and family and should be tackled in that order. You’re encouraged to create yourself a Fuck Budget where you list everything you give a fuck about in each category. You then question whether you truly care about each of those fucks. To do this, you ask yourself: does it annoy? If the answer is yes, stop giving a fuck asap and dedicate that fuck to something that doesn’t annoy.

She manages to make it seem so simple, then tackles all your ‘oh wait but what about…’ questions and then make you realise it actually can be simple to stop giving a fuck about shit that doesn’t enrich your life.

So, as you can tell, I bought it. And I’ve been raving about it ever since. I don’t know if it’s the excessive use of the word ‘fuck’, the fact that it genuinely made me snort with laughter on several occasions or that it just made so much fucking sense; but I’ve vowed to make life changes after reading this book. Maybe you will too?

(I’m also currently reading Sarah’s next book Get Your Shit Together: How to stop worrying about what you should do so you can finish what you need to do and start doing what you want to do. It’s not as good but still thoroughly entertaining.)

The Life Changing Magic of Not Giving a Fuck by Sarah Knight